Ever find yourself stuck in a spiral of “what if,” “I should,” or “this always happens”? Thought traps — also known as cognitive distortions — are mental shortcuts your brain uses to protect you under stress. The problem? Those protective patterns can quietly box you in, keeping you from saying what you mean, trying what you want, or becoming who you’re growing into. In this post, we explore common thought traps like catastrophizing, all-or-nothing thinking, mind-reading, and emotional reasoning — along with practical, nervous-system-aware tools to soften them. You’ll learn how subtle language shifts can calm your body, create choice points, and help you step out of rigid thinking patterns. Because you’re not broken — you’re patterned. And patterns can shift.
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Not All Therapists Work the Same Way: Why Therapy Style Matters
Therapy isn’t just about what you talk about—it’s about how your therapist shows up with you. While therapists share similar training and credentials, their styles can feel very different in the room. Understanding those differences can help you find a therapeutic fit that feels safer, more natural, and easier to stay with. When style and support align, therapy has room to deepen—and that’s where the magick happens.
Staying Sane in an Insane World
There are moments when the world stops feeling coherent. Not just chaotic, but unhinged in a way that settles into the body. People aren’t shaken simply because something bad happened. What destabilizes us is the erosion of predictability. The quiet loss of shared rules, upheld values, and the assumption of basic human dignity. When those foundations begin to fracture, the nervous system notices immediately.
Staying sane in an insane world does not mean becoming unaffected or detached. It means learning how to remain present without being overwhelmed. It means understanding that chronic exposure to harm, injustice, and instability changes how the brain and body function, and that this response is not a personal failure. It is human.
This piece is an invitation to tend the nervous system while bearing witness. To ground without bypassing. To make meaning without collapsing into despair. To stay connected to yourself, to others, and to your values, even when the world feels difficult to recognize.
In Search of Shadows
There comes a moment when the old ways stop working, but the new ones have not yet revealed themselves. You are still functioning, still showing up, and yet something inside feels quietly unfinished. In Search of Shadows explores shadow work through a Jungian lens, inviting you into the inner labyrinth where forgotten parts, hidden brilliance, and belonging begin to take shape.
The Strange Ache That Follows You Into Morning
You wake up missing someone who never existed.
Not in the dramatic sense. In the subtle, unsettling way that lingers in the body. A heaviness in the chest. A quiet absence that doesn’t match the room you’re standing in. The person you miss was there in the dream. Close. Familiar. And now they’re gone, not to distance or time, but to waking up.
This kind of longing isn’t a mistake. It isn’t silly. It’s not something to rush past or explain away. Sometimes dreams offer us a moment of connection not to confuse us, but to remind us of what our nervous system recognizes as meaningful.
The ache isn’t asking to be solved. It’s asking to be noticed.
The DSM-5-TR and the Map That Forgot the Weather
The DSM-5-TR may map the mind, but it forgets the weather. Beyond its tidy criteria lives the living ecology of ADHD, autism, and AuDHD—the rhythms that shape daily life, not just diagnostic codes. This field guide steps past the manual’s margins into the real terrain of nervous systems in motion: the hummingbirds of hyperactivity, the cartographers of sensation, the phoenixes of rebirth. It’s not a list of symptoms—it’s a forecast of humanity in all its unpredictable, beautiful weather.
🪫 “Why Am I Always on 5%?” – When Your Body’s Battery Can’t Keep Up with Life’s Apps
You ever wake up and immediately feel like your energy level is that sad little red sliver on your phone—the one that screams charge me now—except you did sleep, and nothing’s charging? Meanwhile, everyone around you seems to be running on full brightness, 5G, and 27 open apps, while you’re over here just trying toContinue reading “🪫 “Why Am I Always on 5%?” – When Your Body’s Battery Can’t Keep Up with Life’s Apps”
Unplugging Won’t Save You: Reclaiming Mental Health Without Abandoning the World
Some days it feels like the world’s on fire, and you’re just trying to make it through your morning coffee without spiraling. Navigating political anxiety with mental health support isn’t just helpful—it’s necessary. Political seasons stir up more than just headlines—they stir up hearts, histories, fears, and fatigue. For some, it’s just another cycle. ForContinue reading “Unplugging Won’t Save You: Reclaiming Mental Health Without Abandoning the World”
Dear Neurodivergent Mom: You’re Not Broken—You’re Becoming (Wanda Maximoff Would Agree)
Welcome to the Fourth Trimester—A.k.a. The Westview of Motherhood If you’ve recently given birth and feel like your sense of time, identity, and reality are collapsing in on themselves—hi. You might be a new mom, and you might also feel like you’ve accidentally hexed your own life into a bizarre alternate sitcom universe where nothingContinue reading “Dear Neurodivergent Mom: You’re Not Broken—You’re Becoming (Wanda Maximoff Would Agree)”
Joel is Gone. Now What?: Surviving the Unthinkable When Your Person Dies
Inspired by the raw emotional gravity of The Last of Us Part II, this blog explores what happens when we lose the person who anchored us to the world—through the lens of Ellie’s grief after Joel’s death. This isn’t just fan commentary; it’s an exploration of real-world attachment loss, adult grief, and how we beginContinue reading “Joel is Gone. Now What?: Surviving the Unthinkable When Your Person Dies”